#PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

#PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

For boys who play little league sports, they practice several times a week to get it right on game-day. However, when it comes to real life issues, boys are told to just do it like Nike and get it done without any practice or experience.

If we were a fly on the wall, we would hear boys brag about their fathers saying, "My father is stronger, bigger, smarter than your father!" or "My father can beat your father up." And there is nothing more powerful for a boy to say to someone to win an argument by saying, "My father told me..." What a father tells his son is law, even if no one else think so.

But what happens when there is no father to brag on or to inspire confidence and strength when faced with a threat?

When there is no father operating in a boys life, they sometimes believe the stereotypical images that defines them as uneducated and criminals. Without a father to let a boy know, that being smart is a good thing, they sometimes dumb themselves down to fit into someone's else reality of them.

In Africa there was an overpopulated herd of elephants, so all of the adult male elephants were removed and relocated to slow the growth. However, when this was done, the teenage male elephants began going on rampages, this behavior did not stop until the adult males were returned to the herd.

Every boy needs to undergo a 'Right of Passage', where they are taught about their physical, emotional, and spiritual growth; and in the development of good work ethics, life goals and strategies for accomplishing them. With God given strength, they can overcome a negative influence, which promotes violence, substance abuse, sexual promiscuity, degradation of women and themselves, and a perverse love for money that could side-line them for life.

"Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6

"It is easier to build strong children, then to repair broken men." Frederick Douglass

Practice makes perfect, you play the game like you practice.

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