# Why Do Sisters With An Education Intimidate Some Brothers?
# Why Do Sisters With An Education Intimidate Some Brothers?
By: Raymond L. Carr Jr.
>In a general conversation a sister asked me, "What is up with brothers being intimidated by sisters with education?" My mind began to race as to the many reasons, why sisters who have an education would intimidate some brothers. I could not help but to think how some brothers sometimes do not measure up and how brutal sisters can be when telling them the truth when they do not.
>Brothers, who are intimidated by sisters who have an education, it can and will posses a problem in a relationship. Some brothers, can become resentful of sisters ability to pay bills and mange the household. In this macho attitude, feelings that he has lost control as the leader and breadwinner, which cause some to penalize their wife/girlfriend for her success.
>Socially and Culturally, some brothers have been told that they are less than a man, if they do not make or have more than their wife/girlfriend. Even though, brothers hold the bulk of the responsibility, sisters play a role in this matter as well; But, it does not help when sisters throw it in his face because of what he is not or what he does not have as far as money and education. Too many sisters consider their priorities to be, good looks, money and material assets. These things do not speak to a brother's character or ability to love a sister.
>Brothers, have a need for male dominance, which is to influence, control, and rule by superior power/authority, no matter whether he has a formal education or not.
>When a brother feels his position as a man has been challenged he will go into defense mode to protect his position, like two rams butting heads or two lions fighting for domination, because many males do not want to take a backseat to his woman.
Brothers and Sisters, in relationships have to realize and know, they are not in competition with each other, but should be an unified front in building a life together. In building a life together, neither dominates, oppresses or controls the other. However, the competitive spirit fueled by the Ego, sometimes causes some to be uncooperative and withdrawn.
>This issue, is deeper than brothers hating on sisters or not being able to handle a sister's success. There is an 'Educational Holocaust' taking place. Often sisters are finding themselves in this dilemma for this reason, brothers are not finishing school and the dropout rate is at an all time high, because, some are to cool for school.
>Data from the 1998 National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP) show not only the often cited numbers that 41% of fourth grade boys and 35% of fourth grade girls read below the basic level, but also shows the disturbing numbers of approximately 1.4 million students dropout of school between grades 9 and 12.
>Brothers, need to take an self-interest to educate themselves, because only 41% of Black males graduate from high school in the United States. Just 22% of Black males who began a four year college, graduated within six years, 32% of all suspended students are Black (mostly Black males), are twice as likely as whites to be suspended or expelled. Blacks make up only 3.2% of lawyers, 3% of doctors, and less than 1% of architects in the U.S. (Data from the National Student Clearinghouse and the Schott Foundation for Public Education).
>Do not get me wrong, I am not playing 'The Race Card' or minimizing the responsibility for brothers. I am just presenting the unfortunate facts of what happens when brothers do not get a education; The less education they have, the less access to the economic success.
>These numbers show a problem that is the reality for millions of brothers. There is more than a need for a solution to solve this problem. However, Sisters can play a powerful role in helping solve this 'Educational Holocaust'. If Sisters, demand that brothers get an education or they will not date or deal with them, I can almost guarantee, more brothers would be getting their education (diploma/degrees).
>The bottom line is, Brothers must become the change that they so desperately need to be.
Check out my Blog: raymondwrites.blogspot. com & my book "Mass Incarceration: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly" by: Raymond L. Carr Jr. available online @ amazon.com
By: Raymond L. Carr Jr.
>In a general conversation a sister asked me, "What is up with brothers being intimidated by sisters with education?" My mind began to race as to the many reasons, why sisters who have an education would intimidate some brothers. I could not help but to think how some brothers sometimes do not measure up and how brutal sisters can be when telling them the truth when they do not.
>Brothers, who are intimidated by sisters who have an education, it can and will posses a problem in a relationship. Some brothers, can become resentful of sisters ability to pay bills and mange the household. In this macho attitude, feelings that he has lost control as the leader and breadwinner, which cause some to penalize their wife/girlfriend for her success.
>Socially and Culturally, some brothers have been told that they are less than a man, if they do not make or have more than their wife/girlfriend. Even though, brothers hold the bulk of the responsibility, sisters play a role in this matter as well; But, it does not help when sisters throw it in his face because of what he is not or what he does not have as far as money and education. Too many sisters consider their priorities to be, good looks, money and material assets. These things do not speak to a brother's character or ability to love a sister.
>Brothers, have a need for male dominance, which is to influence, control, and rule by superior power/authority, no matter whether he has a formal education or not.
>When a brother feels his position as a man has been challenged he will go into defense mode to protect his position, like two rams butting heads or two lions fighting for domination, because many males do not want to take a backseat to his woman.
Brothers and Sisters, in relationships have to realize and know, they are not in competition with each other, but should be an unified front in building a life together. In building a life together, neither dominates, oppresses or controls the other. However, the competitive spirit fueled by the Ego, sometimes causes some to be uncooperative and withdrawn.
>This issue, is deeper than brothers hating on sisters or not being able to handle a sister's success. There is an 'Educational Holocaust' taking place. Often sisters are finding themselves in this dilemma for this reason, brothers are not finishing school and the dropout rate is at an all time high, because, some are to cool for school.
>Data from the 1998 National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP) show not only the often cited numbers that 41% of fourth grade boys and 35% of fourth grade girls read below the basic level, but also shows the disturbing numbers of approximately 1.4 million students dropout of school between grades 9 and 12.
>Brothers, need to take an self-interest to educate themselves, because only 41% of Black males graduate from high school in the United States. Just 22% of Black males who began a four year college, graduated within six years, 32% of all suspended students are Black (mostly Black males), are twice as likely as whites to be suspended or expelled. Blacks make up only 3.2% of lawyers, 3% of doctors, and less than 1% of architects in the U.S. (Data from the National Student Clearinghouse and the Schott Foundation for Public Education).
>Do not get me wrong, I am not playing 'The Race Card' or minimizing the responsibility for brothers. I am just presenting the unfortunate facts of what happens when brothers do not get a education; The less education they have, the less access to the economic success.
>These numbers show a problem that is the reality for millions of brothers. There is more than a need for a solution to solve this problem. However, Sisters can play a powerful role in helping solve this 'Educational Holocaust'. If Sisters, demand that brothers get an education or they will not date or deal with them, I can almost guarantee, more brothers would be getting their education (diploma/degrees).
>The bottom line is, Brothers must become the change that they so desperately need to be.
Check out my Blog: raymondwrites.blogspot. com & my book "Mass Incarceration: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly" by: Raymond L. Carr Jr. available online @ amazon.com
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